It's odd, isn't it?
When your life just doesn't feel right. Yet, you don't quite know why.
Generally, your life isn't all bad. And you feel that you should be happier. That you should be grateful for what you have and make the best of it.
But too many struggles darken your days. Too much negativity circles in your mind. And too much anxiety keeps you up at night.
You feel unbalanced, out of control. Stuck.
You don't believe in yourself and your own abilities. Somehow, other people always seem ahead of you. More important. Their achievements superior to yours.
You believe that you are a born social misfit, procrastinator, people-pleaser, push-over or under-achiever. Doomed to suffer a fearful and anxious existence because of your inherent nervous disposition. Condemned to a life of mediocrity, inferiority and "just getting by".
That's just what it is.
Not everybody can achieve greatness, stand out, matter. Not all of us are destined for happiness, purpose and abundance.
Not all of us are good enough. Bad luck, right?
But has it ever occurred to you that all of your struggles might just be signs of low self-worth?
Low self-worth manifests in 4 major symptom clusters, which cause a myriad of problems and immeasurable suffering every single day.
The thing is though that many of the signs of low self-worth are so common and widespread that we no longer recognise them as such. We believe that something is wrong with us. That suffering is our destiny. That life and the Universe hate us.
Here is a list of the 69 most common (but often overlooked) signs of low self-worth, as they correspond to the 4 major symptom clusters.
Low self-worth affects everybody differently. And not all signs will apply to everybody. But generally, the more signs you recognise in yourself, the lower your self-worth.
If you suffer from low self-worth, you (wrongly) assume that your worth depends on your appearance, weight, achievements, success, IQ, qualifications, bank balance and status in society.
Failure to meet the (entirely arbitrary and unrealistic) standards and expectations of society causes a chronic feeling of “not being good enough”.
This commonly results in the following behaviour patterns which are all signs of low self-worth:
If you don’t know your true worth and live with the core belief that you are not good enough, you will assume that you cannot trust yourself to get anything right.
This will commonly cause the following behaviours as typical signs of low self-worth:
Feeling worth is a basic human need.
If your self-worth is low, if you feel worthless, you will strive to “create” or increase your worth by gaining other people's approval.
You are pleased with yourself if your boss, your family or the random person on the street think you are clever, hard-working, attractive, or successful. You beat yourself up if they don’t recognise your efforts to impress them.
The pursuit of external approval to gain a temporary, volatile sense of worth produces the following behaviour patterns which are all universal signs of low self-worth:
If you lack self-worth, you will tend to compare yourself to others.
You obtain a fleeting sense of worthiness if you feel superior or at least equal to other people. While perceived inferiority will result in the conclusion that you are a pathetic loser. Hopeless. Not good enough.
The relentless comparison of yourself, your accomplishments and attributes to others triggers the following behaviours which are all signs of low self-worth:
Do you recognise yourself in the behaviour patterns above? Do you suffer from low self-worth?
Answer 7 quick questions and discover how many of your daily struggles are caused by low self-worth.
To be honest, I would be astonished if you didn’t.
The heart-breaking truth is that most of us will suffer from lack of self-worth to some degree. The more of the above signs you recognise in yourself, the lower your self-worth.
And the tragedy is that most people do not realise that their insecurities, anxieties, doubts and fears are caused by lack of self-worth. We perceive them as part of our personality.
We believe they are fixed, inherent traits we need to learn to live with. Our character. What we "just are".
But it's not true! These behaviour patterns are NOT YOU!
The insecure misfit, the substandard write-off, the anxious worrier, the VIP (very inferior person) aren’t you. The stressed out maniac who works 24/7 to gain approval, recognition and appreciation isn’t you! The people pleaser, the notorious saviour, the helpless victim, the bully, the self-concious wallflower, the self-doubting loser...
And these signs will disappear when you heal your self-worth. They are mere symptoms of a disastrous misunderstanding. A misconception of our society that we absorbed when we were children.
We all believe that we are inherently worthless. That we come into this world devoid of worth and value. And that we have to sacrifice ourselves to the task of accumulating worth as long as we live.
But the truth is that worth is the essence of your Being. An absolute, inherent part of your existence. Unchangeable like the number of cells in your body.
You are infinitely worthy. Now and forever. You always have been. Just as every other living being.
Low self-worth fools you into believing that you are worthless. And you behave accordingly.
And the only true way to overcome the struggle, end the suffering, escape the hardship is to become aware of your true, infinite, inner worth!
Nobody else needs to confirm this, nobody needs to recognise your achievements, nobody needs to be impressed.
You ARE worth. Full stop. Just because you are alive.
Now all you need to do is to remember it.